It is now seen that spankos divide into two distinct groups: those who got the first inkling of their interest before the age of 10, and those who acquired it during or after puberty.
I am in the process of constructing a new Spanking survey to try to highlight all the differences between the two groups (suggestions for interesting questions greatly appreciated) but for now, I would like to discuss one that seems to be pretty widespread - but definitely not universal.
We find that vanillas do not understand - indeed cannot understand - the idea of a spanking just for the spanking's sake itself. Particularly if no element of discipline is involved. She has a need to have her bottom slapped hard, engenders such an outcome and that is it. No erotic play of any kind, no sex - nothing. The spanking was the be all and end all of the incident.
In discussions with fellow spankos, there are some of us who also don't really understand a spanking for a spanking's sake. It is, in their world view, a prelude to sex or part of foreplay and for them even a discipline spanking is too far outside the SSC equation.
So far, all the spankos I have come across with this mindset are what we might call "late starters" - they acquired the taste at or after puberty.
And that makes a great deal of sense to me.
The 75% of us who started young, tended to find the idea of a spanking to be quite delightful, but the practice to be very unpleasant. It happens, but it is rare, that young spankos actually put themselves into trouble simply to get another spanking. It is the thought, not the deed, that intrigues. (There are a number of theories as to why the young body acts like this, but that is for another post).
After puberty, the 75% of us find that our existing spank drive often gets wrapped around our new sex drive. And actual spanking activity can take place without any sense of fear or loathing. A correspondent told me that for the longest time in early teen-hood, she thought the words spanking and masturbation were synonyms. We have two separate drives that often intertwine, but they are separate.
The 25% latecomers had a sex drive in place before the spanking one got built. Again there are a number of theories to explain how this comes about, but they all try to show the mechanics of adding a spanking drive TO a sex drive. Latecomers do not have two drives, the have one which has two distinct featues.
Thus, some of us have two drives and a spanking for a spanking's sake satisfies the one completely, and the rest have only one: and for them, usually, a spanking without sex just seems somewhat incomplete.
p.s. If you do have any thoughts on questions to try to reveal other differences, do drop me a line.
This is all news to me. I had never put it together about late comers and "a spanking for a spanking's sake". In fact, I have never knowingly met a late comer. I do know some that get spanked for discipline and there is no sexual component. None. They say they hate the pain, but continue the behavior to get paddled.
ReplyDeleteThis is fascinating to me. Please continue.
We are treading in uncharted waters - and my opinions are largely just that: opinions that I share, but perhaps have not made as clear as it could be that no one really knows as yet.
ReplyDeleteThat is why I am in the process of building a new survey to try to get some data in an area that no one has explored so far. Readers of this blog willbe invited to add their knowledge to the answers, so that we do get to know what is going on out there. Absolute total anonymity is guaranteed for the participants - but more of that when I try to get you to take part.
I met a "very late" bloomer who tells me she first acquired the taste for spanking when she was close to being 30 years old. About 10% of spankos state that they belong to the "very late" bloomer category. She states that her spanking drive, like that of those very early starters, is quite separate from her sex drive. It occurs to me that the farther you were from puberty you were when you spanking drive came into being, the more likely it is that it is totally independent of your sex drive. Just speculation - and one that might get resolved one way or another when the next survey gets underway.
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