E is for Extreme

I was chatting on Second Life to a fellow spanko - he goes by the name of Hammer - and we were sharing prior real life incidents.

It has always been clear to me that the sex drive and the spanking drive are quite separate:  spanking can be part of foreplay, but it does not have to be - and spankings do not lead inexorably to some sort of sexual relief.    Of all things spanko that baffle vanillas is that sometimes the spanking is the be all and end all of some mutual time spent together.   It is not always a substitute for Viagra.

It does occur to me that at the extreme end of those who get pleasure from the pain side of spanking really do take away the consent part of the usual occasion.    We who spank get most of our kick out of the reflected glow coming from the partner's real tingle:  and the reverse sometimes happens.   The willing victim is getting all her pleasure second hand from the tingle the spanker gets by delivering a whack.   The harder the whack, the more pleasure the spanker must feel and it echoes back to her.

Now, when it comes to writing spanking fiction, you might want to pitch your plot at a level the widest audience finds acceptable - unless of course (usual caveat) you have found a niche market place and your readers revel in your ability to bring extreme actions and extreme emotions into a sharp, if second hand, reality.    If you are on the fringe and are enjoying the ride as much as your fans, then you do not need me to tell you that not everyone enjoys the extreme.

And although I have not met such a lady, I am told that some just revel in the sheer sensation of pain across their backside - the harder the pain, the greater the sensation, the more enjoyable the experience is.   A welted, bruised and lacerated pair of buttocks is not regretted for one second, but simply the price of achieving a great experience.

I have never been out at the extreme limits - despite what my fictional fantasies may suggest.   For me, the prime purpose of giving a spanking is to meet the needs of my partner first, and my own second.   And the mutual delight is as satisfactory as it is important.    So - I am not really sure what the outcome would be if I did come across some lady who wanted to be given a non-consensual beating to the maximum.    I sort of think it might end up not working out how it was hoped to unfold - but if such a session ever comes my way, I promise to report what happens in some future post to this blog.

Incidentally, if you have never tried Second Life, you might like to give it a go.   You get to steer an avatar around a virtual world, and if your travels should take you to one of the spanking sites (such as RLD) you will meet other avatars being steered by spankos.    Worth a try, I promise you