More on motivation

Let us talk some more about the motivation of the spankee.

It happens in real life as well as in fiction that a young lady is told to touch her toes by a man holding a cane,   And she does does, knowing full well some time in the near future that cane is going to be smacking against her bottom.


The act of her touching her toes stretches the credulity of the vanilla to breaking point.   How could anyone willingly let themselves get hit like that?

The first explanation is the one that troubles the vanilla mind the most:  she presents her bottom for a beating simply because she is going to enjoy it.   For her, pain is a source of pleasure.    To the vanilla, pain is bad, not having pain is good, and making pain into something good is downright perverse.   If not, in fact, downright perverted.   Therefore, the vanilla will argue, such a woman must have a broken psychology.  

Indeed, until quite recently, the spankee would have tended to agree with that point of view.   Enjoying getting your bottom slapped was both shameful as well as being impossible to understand.    Just about every spanko around the globe spends a good deal of time convinced that each is the only human with such tendencies, and very, very determined not to let anyone else know about it.   It is reported on one of the forums that a couple were wed for more than 10 years before they each found out that the other was a spanko.  Quite ironic really just how far some people can go to hide the truth from friends and family.

The second set of explanations revolve around different forms of coercion:  she does not want to be caned, but is submitting because of blackmail, false sense of duty, because he has brain washed her and so on.   If she is not a willing victim, then some sort of force must be being applied against her.   Ergo - if she is not demented, then her tormentor is.   Either way, this caning should not happen.

But in adult relationships, all parties take part willingly.   There simply is no room for abuse in an adult relationship.   Not that abuse never takes place:  when it does, it is because of the lack of an adult relationship, not because there is one.

In short, the spanker and the spankee will both gain pleasure from the pain of a spanking.   The spankee as a direct consequence of a stinging bottom, the spanker as an echo of those stings.

And those of us who have been there need no better motivation.